tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8798255687129145442.post885570246833777719..comments2023-10-10T08:16:43.440-04:00Comments on The Pittsburgh Women's Blogging Society: Sex and the City + MoreSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07457260747698468070noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8798255687129145442.post-48621358125350861412008-06-28T02:24:00.000-04:002008-06-28T02:24:00.000-04:00Yikes. Well at least you know ahead of time? Sorry...Yikes. Well at least you know ahead of time? Sorry to hear that. Keep your head up, things will get better.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10127663037813027123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8798255687129145442.post-33717469193936186932008-06-26T12:46:00.000-04:002008-06-26T12:46:00.000-04:00I'm struggling with a lot of the same questions th...I'm struggling with a lot of the same questions this week, since I just found out that my fiance', who I was planning on marrying in October, has been stringing along another girl for a year. I was committed to the fifty year mark, to making it work, to getting through the tough times and near misses. But, I can't handle a pre-marital year-long affair. And I wonder sometimes if that makes me weak. Or if I'm just old fashioned and naive about the realities of marriage. Or maybe, I'm just a sucker.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8798255687129145442.post-73231748980397007022008-06-23T21:13:00.000-04:002008-06-23T21:13:00.000-04:00Anonymous #1: Thank you. I am 36 and have been mar...Anonymous #1: Thank you. I am 36 and have been married almost 6 years. It isn't always easy - for the reasons that you listed. And it is also so rewarding - for the reasons that you listed! Marriage is tough and not enough is said about how to truly WORK through the rough patches with grace and dignity. Don't know if you realize it but your comment is full of the best advice I've read on the topic from someone that has lived through it. Thank you and congratulaions. <BR/>Anonymous #4Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8798255687129145442.post-87407947838088713472008-06-23T20:49:00.000-04:002008-06-23T20:49:00.000-04:00Hey, here's what you do "ladies". When you have a...Hey, here's what you do "ladies". When you have a guy that you think is really committed? Let a big rolling fart and see if he laughs. If he does, he's a keeper. Believe me, he'll be doing that on your wedding night, so if he can give you equal rights on that, he will give you equality on all you aspire to. It works, for me and my beautful daughter. We have real men.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8798255687129145442.post-77665270863340625302008-06-23T12:40:00.000-04:002008-06-23T12:40:00.000-04:00Too many features writers in newspapers and magazi...Too many features writers in newspapers and magazines try to define what's "happening" in the hook-up culture, etc. Your friend is right -- every relationship is different. <BR/><BR/>But, yeah, maybe young people in general are putting off serious relationships until later so that women can establish a career first. And maybe that's why college-age people traverse in groups, like people used to do in junior high, to avoid anything too serious. The point is, there are so many exceptions to these trends, why bother focusing on trends? When and if the "right" person comes along, you'll know it if you are thinking with your head straight. That's for women. Guys will never think straight -- they'll always think with their dicks. It's what keeps the human race flourishing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8798255687129145442.post-8209167054756209132008-06-23T06:29:00.000-04:002008-06-23T06:29:00.000-04:00I don't know if my input will be welcome, but here...I don't know if my input will be welcome, but here it is, for what it's worth. Not trying to persuade anyone or to scold, just telling things the way I've experienced them over this past week-end.<BR/>My husband had his 50th High School class reunion. Lot's of old people. Many we still associate with, many we had nearly forgotten. Over the course of the evening small groups formed. As is the "custom" of this age group, men and women divide themselves by sex, with the few exceptions of mixed prowlers. (yes, even old people still prowl).<BR/>The group that I sat with were all women married 40+ years or recently widowed. What did we talk about? Our longivity of union with the same partner.<BR/>Now that might seem dull, but believe me, the men kept strolling by to find out what all the laughter was about and even acused us of having too much fun. It wasn't just the beer and cocktails, it was the sharing of stories.<BR/>Those stories: How we met our guy, the men we thought we would have wanted instead. Most agreed that we had been lucky with the final pick. Some had "had to get married", some had been virgins, but we all shared our first sexual experience as the beginning of our adult choices. Moving on, we jumped to how hard it was "back then". One car, struggling to pay bills, first telephones, T.V. Sterios. Then subtly, stories of suspected infidelity, most women have had at least one near hit on their marriage. Three of these women shared stories of how they threatened death to rivals moving on their husbands. Nipping an affair off, instead of watching it unfold.<BR/><BR/>Laughter broke out as we all agreed that men think with their dicks a lot and it's up to us to give them some direction. It was amazing how all these women had had similar experiences of "keeping the old man home". but we all had succeded and in the end, found a deeper appreciation of the relationship.<BR/>Stories all evening. but all of them revealing the iron will of committment from both partners to keep our vows, knowing that each other was worth the years of struggle, angry times, happy times, forgiving and letting go. All of it worth it because we had something after 50 years.<BR/>We had a joint net worth allowing us to retire gracefully,good kids with stable, productive lives. <BR/>Party over, we strolled to our cars hand-in hand with our "men". Satisfied and filled with contentment that we had such a good life. <BR/><BR/>Maybe the men out there can't get this. Maybe the women can't, and maybe our formula doesn' work anymore, but I'm glad it worked for us. I wish you all good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com